There are so many things that we choose to worry about that are in so many ways meaningless. Yes! I wrote choose, not because I think that we want to worry about these things, but because our mindset isn’t right. We tend to focus on the problems that life can bring instead of all the joys it offers. I’ve thought a lot about this the last couple of days and there are way too many worries to put them all into one post, but let’s set things straight with a few of them.
What if he/she doesn’t like me for who I really am?
I’m guessing most of us have thought just that at some time or another in our lives. We’ve met that special someone that spellbinds us and we so desperately wants to be the person that they want so we choose to alter the way that we act, dress or do things. We adapt ourselves to a potential partner for a potential that (when you really look at it) doesn’t exist at all, even though we want it to.
The simple truth is this: If he or she doesn’t like you for who you are, then you two aren’t meant to be together! It really is as simple as that!!
But I know that love is a little devil that likes to take us on a rollercoaster and sometimes surprises you by making it end up in the house of horrors, but we need to try to see things differently even in Cupid’s haze. We talk about looking for love and wanting all these different qualities and for some reason when we find that person that has a lot of them we tend to overlook everything else about that person that might hold all the warning signs and proofs that it wont last. We enter a fairytale state where we are in love with being in love and the reality of it all doesn’t hit us until it’s time to crash and burn.
Be yourself, look for a person that likes you for you and don’t settle for anything else!
I don’t have time to do the things that I love!
So you love singing, writing, photography, making movies, building model airplanes or drawing? You have a passion or a hobby that warms your soul and stimulates you creatively but you just can’t find the time for it?
I’m sorry to burst your bubble, but if you love it that much (same goes for dating and relationships) you make the time!!
Set your priorities right! Turn off the TV, put away your smart phone, decline that party invitation and do the thing you love. I know it can be tough to do this. Some days are long and demanding and when you get home you just want to sit down and watch some crappy TV show, but when you think about it that doesn’t really do much for you, does it? Think of how much joy and excitement you get from doing the things that you love!
Can we agree that the feeling that gives you is a way better ending to a rough day than watching what’s happening in the life of the Kardshian’s?
What if I fail?
You’re going to..
I know that sounds pessimistic, but it really isn’t. Look at all the great names in history and you will see that none of them got to where they were without failing more than once. Failing is a way of seeing the things that we need to change. It’s a motivation to keep on trying and to try even harder.
Everyone will fail and fall down, but does who succeeds are the ones who get up and keeps on going!
Be that person!
I could go on and on and on, but I’m not going to. I think you already get the picture! We need to be the change that we want to see in other people. We need to follow our hearts and not our worries!
Follow the love. The love for what you do. The love for a person loving you as who you are. The love of your goal.
Any kind of love really, as long as it is real true love!